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Trying to stay in contact with your ex Talking to your ex as usual Mark Sharp, Ph. Wallowing in self-pity for too long Everyone knows that the remedy for a broken heart is wailing your heart out to Adele, watching The Notebook for the umpteenth time and demolishing a giant container of cookie dough ice cream, right? Jumping into a rebound relationship We know that rebound sex is not the way to fix a broken heart, but what about rebound relationships?
Giving up on relationships altogether So you thought you and your ex would be together forever—until you two broke up. Commit to Playing the Field No matter how wonderful a woman you meet out of the gate, after a bad breakup you need some time to yourself and you need some time to evaluate new women. Trying to get her back. If you broke up, it was probably for a reason.
At some point in the future, if the stars are aligned, you might find that getting back together is a good idea. Looking at her social media. Dating again too soon. One of the reasons that we advise you to take some time to improve yourself is because it gives you the space you need to take for yourself to grow and heal after a bad breakup.
Dating again too soon can get in the way of the space you need to make for yourself. Leave a Reply Cancel reply. Right now, by going back to her, you're going to come across as needy and desperate and this will push her further away.
If she is indeed planning to get married, your best bet would be to focus on recovery and working on yourself. If she really loves you, she will come back eventually but it isn't something you should pressure her into because that doesn't work. I suggest applying the no contact rule in order to give yourself some distance from the situation and this might help you gain a fresh perspective.
My bf and I were together for 1. We were really good together and had great chemistry. Two weeks ago though he break up with me because he said that he's not in love with me anymore..
On September I had to move out of town and the plan was that we were gonna be in a LDR for this year. By the beginning of June we were gonna live together.
We were in our first month of LDR when he realised that he loves me but is not in love with me. It shocked me to hear that and after a lot of talking he finally admitted that he felt an attraction for another girl..
I knew her and I can guarantee you that there was nothing going on between the two of them before I left. Actually we were crazy in love while I was still there. I'm sure about that. Anyway, I accepted what he said. I even told him that I would block him on fb cause it wound be to painful for me to see him with her. He said he understands. He did asked me to be friends but I said no. Eventually we said our goodbyes and I haven't contacted him ever since. I've stuck to the no contact rule. And then he posed a pic of his with her as his new gf. And of course he didn't do it on fb.
No, he posted it on Instagram. Now I just unfollowed him on Instagram, because 1 he hadn't posted anything at all. He had 0 posts and never really cared about it and 2 because he told me that he would delete the account. So I didn't thought it was necessary to block him there too.
So imagine my surprise when my friend showed me that pic. Another thing I have to nention is that on fb we had no common friends. But on Instagram my friends follow him, and so does some of my family members.. So there was no way that I woudn't found out about his first post. And it was really out of his character!
He never uploaded pic of us. And we were together for so long I know it sounds crazy but I fell that he did it on purpose. Like he is angry at me because I haven't contacted him ever since the break up and wants to hurt me now or something.. Perhaps in situations like these, it would be best to actually ask him so as to not leave yourself jumping to conclusions?
It may be likely he is currently going through a rebound which you can read up more here Long distance can be hard and if he can't be honest with you, it will also be very hard to initiate anything or progress. First complete the no contact period to give yourself some space. Kevin, my ex cheated on me then dumped me for this person. They have only been dating for a month but already she says that she feels he is the one.
Yet she said that she still feels that way about me. After reading this, the signs point to this being a rebound and that's somewhat comforting. She's rubbed him in my face, she's staying with him. This person is the total opposite of me in every way. Recently she told me that we should be friends at first and slowly work towards getting back together. I agreed to it, as long as we get back together.
She already knows I want to. I want to believe there's hope but she hasn't messaged me in days. Do I do the no-contact routine again or what? If you have not done no contact till now, then you absolutely must do it for at least two months. She cheated on you which is a huge betrayal of trust. Even if you get back together, it will be hard for you to trust her again. Right now, you just want her back out of desperation and fear of losing her forever.
These are not good reasons to get back together. Take your time and think things through. By doing no contact, you will also show her that you are not desperate to get back with her, which is going to make her more attractive to you. It might even make her think about her actions and regret what she did. I was dating my collegue for about a year i felt like he was pulling away and things were changing.
So i went onto no contact with him. He tried reaching out to me after 10days but I did not reply him. After my no contact was over I tried messging him with a nice memory we shared it did not show any needeness or any sign that I want him back. But there was no reply from him. I waited for another 5 days and sent him a text still no reply. Why is he not responding? Did he loose intrest in me? Is he so mad at me that he is not reafy to speak with him at all? What should I do now? Yes, it does seem like he is mad. You should do no contact again for a couple of weeks.
The next time you contact him, don't send a nice memory or a casual text. Instead, use a serious text. Something like the elephant in the room text mentioned in this article. My ex broke me up a month ago now but we still keep in touch. We were so happy before and all of the sudden he found another girl.
I know him he cant live with only one woman. I lived with him for many months and I took care of him like we were a couple. Yes what he did was very humiliating, insulting and embarrasing. The lovely things he said to me before now after meeting the girl was totally opposite. He knows I love him so much. Lately, he said to me that the girl is a total opposite of me.
But I dont believe him because he keeps lying to me. He wants to still keep in touch of me but I am not getting any affection from him anymore. One time he asked me if I still like him or love him.
He said he is happy but he still has all those attachments and a big part of me is still with him. If he is happy, why keep trying to connect with me? He called me and he said he is not confused. He misses our friendship, conversations, our road trips I surprised him with, etc.
Before the conversation ended, he called me baby and said he got lost driving because I distracted him. Long story short, I kicked him out last May. He moved back home out of state to get his head together, be with family. He begged me back for 2 months straight, I told him my stipulations to work things out.
Again hard to tell but sounds like he wants to be friends. However, do not be pushy with your messages to him or he may end up blocking you. As I understand he is planning to propose to. But this time, he was now stuck in my mind for a few days. She agreed, so she came my ex is dating someone else but still contacting me picked me up, she was a bit distant again, but we talked a lot. Lets say that you and I dated and had a pretty decent relationship. Right now I can't stop hoping that he will come back to me, but because of the issues I am doubting whether his reasons for the break up is only his way of leaving me. Come to find out that he had met somebody in June of this year and then he told me that he had slept with. You may use these HTML tags and attributes: I'm a web developer and her behavior get into my work line. Hi I been leaving with my boyfriend for few mounts. We tried few times to get back but problem with kids always ended the. Within the space of a 2 days, she grew very distant, then pretty much didnt initiate any contact with me for a week.
He starts drifting and becoming distant but still kept saying I love you miss you like crazy, I am coming home before winter gets here. I have to work to save money. I suspected he was getting involved with another woman up there, an old friend of his he dated 35 years ago. He denied he was talking to anybody 2 different times, so I started NC. He came to town to visit his daughter. Said the reason he wanted to see me was mainly to apologize for how he treated me. He had ulterior motive of course long story.
He denied he was exclusive with this woman I suspected. This woman has a public fb profile so I was able to see things since September. She never directly mentioned him or tagged him in anything until Halloween, right before his visit in November. This is how I knew he was lying.
He has a public fb profile as well but never posted anything about her until after his trip. After his visit in November and it all came out he IS involved with her, I told him not to contact me anymore. You have her now. Middle of December rolls around. He does things for a week to get a response. I finally replied and gave him one, lol. I asked him if she knows you are doing this. He gave me an excuse why he was reaching out to me when I called him up on this. I told him honesty goes a long ways.
It dont matter anymore. He said right lets be cool, past is past. I went off on him last month and thought that would be the end of hearing from him finally. Looking back now, it appears he got himself in a rebound relationship with this woman. He probably was not in a relationship with her in September but he was involved with her. So why does he keep reaching for me if he IS truly happy and IN love with her? I even told him this last time we talked.
I am not playing games, I am not getting caught up in some love triangle. I am not your emotional support anymore. ON her fb page beginning of December, she uploaded her profile picture of the 2 of them. She made a comment to somebody they are working on happily ever after. He acknowledged it saying they are.
I love you so and so. She tagged him on a picture same day on his fb wall. He never commented there. So what is he hoping for by coming out saying what he did this week and plans a trip here to town in a few months? HIs younger daughter still lives here where I am at. It obviously is not an emergency like November or a wedding, lol. I even told him I want to put this behind me and forget about it.
I have been moving on with my life and he keeps popping in. Plus, if he is just using this woman until he gets it together, and leading her on like they have a future, that is wrong too. I have been moving forward with my life doing my own thing. I have never had an ex act this.
I have come to the conclusion I think he has a personality disorder. No other explanation for all this nonsense. Of course he went silent on me after the big conversation I posted in here last time.
About ready to have a bonfire lol. I actually jog and play lots of tennis to rid myself of stress! Just come jogging over if you wish!
I forgot to add that the child is not his. Is my ex hoping to reconcile with me and that I have a change of heart or is he just playing mind games, feeding his ego? We were friends for years before we got together. He is long distance and out of state too, if that helps. Not like I go can somewhere and sit down with him and get this all out, lol.
He seems trapped in no mans land. He needs to grow up and plant his flag and if its you, he best convince you.
How long does it take to view them? After I posted this and my last conversation with him when I posted this, I decided to completely block him up, I had enough.
It was too much and holding me back trying to heal and move forward. I felt that was not inappropriate. He was very upset and mad I completely blocked him out. HIs excuse was still about some things he has here. I unblocked him on messenger and we have chatted since then.
Anyhow, a week after talking to him about this, he left me a vm at 1am my time saying things he shouldnt if he is with somebody. Of course he bracktracks and says I was with wiht oh hush. No, you sent this yesterday. I tried explaining to him why I blocked him out and now this message. Not fair to anybody, and that is emotional cheating.
He cannot let go of me.
My ex-girlfriend has a new boyfriend but still contacts me on a regular basis. which th carrot is being dangling on for sometime, and no more contact with her. . didn't know if I'd ever really cone back and seeing if she wanted someone else . Is your ex contacting you even though he is dating someone else? Your ex boyfriend appears to be happy with his new girlfriend yet he still ends up . Well, the shocking thing to me was the fact that my buddy had nothing but horrible things.
He said he doesnt get it why i dont want to talk to him anymore. He has messaged me everyday for the last week, like he really mises me. He said the other day that if I have feelings and attachments for him that it matters. He just reflects on what is important and he needed to get his life together didd this after I kicked him out. He still looks at my pictures. The problem I have with him is that he hid this woman from me and lied about it, while leading me on like he was coming back here to work on things.